I hate fag hags. Hate them. Fag hags, fruit flies ... whatever. Women who think they will make themselves more interesting by surrounding themselves with fags. Like Madonna. Well, now for her it's Jews or African babies or something like that.

This being said, I would KILL to be one of Kathy Griffin's gays. Kill.

SHE is not a fag hag. Not.

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We owe a lot to "Fag Hags", I think; those women who by their acceptance of us have influenced the attitudes of those around them: especially their straight male friends and even their children. I certainly don't want to downplay the hard work that we ourselves have done on our community's behalf (and let's not forget the importance of our drag queens in this! They fought for us at Stonewall, after all) but these women are one of the reasons that we have made as many in-roads as we have toward cultural acceptance. This isn't to say that there aren't those who do just as you are saying, for reasons of perceived status or self-interest, but there are women who find that they just relate to us better than they do straight men, and who can blame them? We are pretty fabulous, after all. ;)

I'd like a better term than "fag hag", though... it sounds so demeaning.

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I totally agree about women who are open and accepting regardless of the opinions of others, but that's not really what I think of when I hear the word "fag hag ..." I think of a very specific minority of the women I have run across in my life. Women who call themselves as fag hags are very different creatures than they were when I was much younger in California. The term is horribly demeaning. I don't like using it and I especially don't like when people use it to define themselves. Of course if it's used in a tongue-in-cheek fashion it can be totally different. My dad calls himself a fag hag for chrissakes.

There were times in my youth when I may very well have suffered if it weren't for the young women who befriended me. They may have called themselves fag hags, but I didn't. Fag hag means something totally different to me.

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Fag hag means something totally different to me.

I totally hear you. Perhaps we should just call them "strong women". :)

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Bravo!!!

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